Fate was initially unfair to little Harold. Due to the peculiarities of the development of the skull, the boy has a developmental delay, but the guy, like his parents, does not give up, and tries his best to adapt to society. Harold goes to a regular school and tries not to miss classes, although it is difficult due to the many visits to the doctor. However, what happened on his ninth birthday completely changed the picture of the boy's world.
On my birthday Harold Hamilton(Gerald Hamilton) invited all his classmates: together with his parents, he sent out 30 invitations. Only 12 people answered that they would be able to come. Well, twelve is already a whole party! Harold always celebrated all previous birthdays in a narrow circle of his family. However, looking at how his older sister invites her girlfriends to her birthday, the boy wanted the same holiday.
Harold decorated his room in the style of superheroes, asked to make gifts with sweets for the guests, which he would give them at the end of the holiday. “And it's already three hours, and no one is there,” says the boy's grandmother. - Four, and still no one. It's five o'clock and Harold's mom says to him, let's cut the cake already. And Harold asks to wait a little more, suddenly someone will appear. He was still hopeful."
Harold's grandmother, Amalia Lara, said that at that time all the adults felt sad and angry at the same time, they all felt very sorry for the guy. “His heart was broken. It's all so wrong." The boy was congratulated only by the closest, and more than a single gift, not a single postcard, not a single visit - Harold received nothing more. It seemed that this idea only aggravated everything. Before that, he thought he had friends at school, but now he didn't want to see anyone.
Two days after Harold's birthday, Grandma wrote a post on her Facebook page. She described the situation and asked everyone who read her message, and everyone who can, to send a birthday card to the boy so that he does not feel rejected in this society.
“My grandson is in second grade and he has already had five skull surgeries. He is a little behind in development and learning, but he is the kindest and most selfless child I know. His mother sent 30 invitations - 12 said they would come. At three o'clock he set up a table for his friends, dressed up for the party, and got ready for the party. But no one came. Even at five in the evening he was still sitting and waiting for at least someone to appear. When my daughter called these twelve families, she heard back that her child was too weird and that the parents did not want their children to play with him. So no one came. No cards, no gifts. And so I feel obligated to try to somehow fix this situation. You can send postcards to my address and I'll give them to Harold... this whole situation just breaks my heart."
Harold was born without a fontanel in his skull, and therefore was forced to constantly spend time in the hospital. Numerous operations ensured the growth of the bones of the skull, but, unfortunately, certain problems in the development of the child could not be avoided. The last such operation was just two years before the events described. “He needs much more time to develop knowledge and skills in the classroom. He needs the constant attention of the teacher. He is really different from other kids. But that makes it special at the same time.”
Grandmother Amalia's post instantly went viral on the Internet. It has been shared over 4,500 times. And almost immediately the postcards began to arrive. The postcards were from all over the world. And along with the cards, gifts began to arrive. Strangers turned to Harold and wrote to him how they admire him, how they believe in him, wished him only the best.
Soon there were so many postcards that their number exceeded one thousand. “We talked about it with Harold,” says the grandmother. - I explained to him that this attention is not forever, it will end. But it shows that there are good, kind and compassionate people in this world who care and who genuinely want him to have a good birthday.”
But not only there were a lot of postcards - they also sent so many gifts that they had to be placed in a separate room. Of course, one boy does not need so much, but these gifts were made with all their hearts, people sincerely wanted Harold to have a real holiday. Then the parents discussed with the boy what to do with all these cars, toys and designers, and together they decided to take the gifts to a special institution where children with developmental delays study.
In addition to strangers from all over the world, local residents also responded to the request of grandmother Amalia. The local K-9 department invited the boy to their place. He was given a tour, introduced to service dogs, allowed to try on a service uniform, in general, they provided the boy with such a holiday that he did not dare to wish for. By the end of the day, the guy even admitted that he would like to train dogs for the K-9 service in the future. Suddenly it turned out that this world is full of the most excellent people who live both very close, in the neighborhood, and on the other side of the world.
“Now that you have everything a nine-year-old boy could want, what else would you like?” the reporter asks Harold. - "Friends!" - without hesitation, the boy answers.
Sometimes you don’t even need to ask for help from strangers: for example, after the terrorist attack in St. Petersburg, thousands of people tried to somehow alleviate the situation and help the victims.
The holidays passed, girlfriends met, the girls went to work, and the time of unbridled boasting began. Who received what as a gift, what surprises? And it turns out that one has a gift card for ten massages at the spa, the other has a diamond ring, the third was unexpectedly brought to Europe, and someone sniffs and hides his eyes. Because to call a bottle of cheap pop and a net of tangerines a gift somehow doesn’t raise your tongue, but lie ... Well, as much as you can, and you lie every year just the same. So, why does it happen that men give expensive gifts to some women, and not to others?
1. You choose the wrong men.
Because there are men, and there is a layer of moral freaks, ill-bred, spoiled, confident in their own irresistibility and vegetating in aesthetic poverty. Such, if they give something, then perhaps a disgusting verse of their own composition, and then they will also ask for money in debt - to publish a book. To attract such a man, fall in love with him, and even save him from life's troubles - what could be worse? And if this is about you, then you should start, of course, not with gifts, but with the question: “Why am I so “lucky”?” The answer, most likely, will be hidden in childhood, in dislike and criticism from loved ones, in the unspoken demand to deserve love, save, pity everyone but yourself.
You can cope with this if you leave the past in the past and start choosing worthy people. But the endless digging in childhood and the tears that you were not loved should be stopped by an effort of will. And learn to live here and now, making the right decisions, building boundaries, respecting yourself!
2. You do not know how to rejoice.
Somewhere inside, frightened and downtrodden, a woman-girl lives in you, who has been taught from childhood that you have to pay for everything. Having repeatedly paid an exorbitant price for simple human joys, you no longer believe in miracles, you do not want to become attached, you are afraid of any vivid manifestation of feelings. In relationships, you are cold, prefer to control everything, in a word ... the holidays are not for you. Maybe your heart can be melted with a million fluffy bunnies and balloons, but who will undertake this, meeting your wary gaze? Before gifts come into your life, you need to heal from trauma. And to understand that even if there is a fee, it is better to pay the bill than to live dry.
3. Your man does not have enough imagination, and you do not know how to excite her.
In a relationship, not everything is decided “on the forehead”. And no one canceled the male ego. It is much more pleasant to pamper a "little girl" than an equal partner in regular sex.
4. You come across as a jaded person who has everything.
You throw your self-sufficiency in the face of a man, and in response to this, he turns on demonstrative indifference. Ah, do you have everything? Did you earn everything yourself? Nothing surprises you?
Well, you have a pink elephant from a machine gun on you! If at the same time you still stay with this man, and at night you cry into your pillow from resentment, then you really don’t have any satiety, but there is only a mask behind which you hide every day. When you ask yourself the question "why?" and find the answer to it, everything will change. And even a man. Because a person who is ready to respond to self-sufficiency with a cute mockery, in general, well done. Remove the mask and get your well-deserved rings, handbags and beautiful lingerie.
5. This man simply does not consider you his woman, which means that he does not consider himself obliged to give something.
Either you really are not his, but he is not yours, and then you have no right to count on any gifts. Just to have a good time together. Either one of you clearly has an overestimation of the moment.
A gift is not just a sign of attention, but also a confirmation of status, a certain symbol of relationship to each other.. When you don’t understand who you are for him, you can ask directly, or you can look at the gifts.
6. Your value to a man is not obvious.
You failed to position yourself in such a way that the person next to you would consider it a real gift. Sometimes this has deep psychological and even karmic reasons, but it happens that a woman simply does not know how to “sell” herself. This skill is well taught in women's pickup trainings. If you don’t get involved in it too seriously and don’t go too far, maybe someone should learn.
7. You yourself are too good, too grateful and at the same time unpretentious.
You yourself will never tell a person: “Invite me to a restaurant!” or "Give me flowers!". Cook at home, buy clothes on sale, often talk about high prices, condemn spenders, admit that you live on credit. Perhaps it seems to you that by doing this you are demonstrating your reasonableness to a man and hinting that it would be nice to help you.
In fact, you are only branding yourself as a modest (read: cheap) woman who will be happy with any little things. It is to such women that men come to the house with a net of the most necessary products and a bag of washing powder, but it never occurs to them to give a beautiful dress. Not because they can't, but because they doubt she'll wear it at all.
Think about whether you played too much in poverty? It can be difficult to track how you turn from a modest person into a victim. In any case, forbid yourself to be ashamed! Otherwise, you won’t notice how you find yourself below the poverty line, and even drag a man there.
8. You are afraid of male power and power, which willy-nilly appears where expensive gifts and surprises appear.
Many women demonstrate that they will never sacrifice even a small fraction of their comfort and break their usual way of life in order to be with a man. Thus, completely depriving him of the opportunity to act and take the initiative. You need to understand that no one will buy plane tickets and present them as a surprise if they are not sure that you will be delighted, trust, relax, quickly attach a cat to a neighbor and run to pack your suitcase. No one wants to be reprimanded for “you didn’t consult me” and “how could you manage my life like that?” A distant controlling woman can only count on neutral gifts. For example, on a gift card to a megamall. But you must admit, there is not much joy from such gifts.
There is no such person in the world who would not like a gift. No gift can leave anyone indifferent. But if receiving a gift each time is embarrassing, a certain obligation is felt, then perhaps its presentation brings great joy.
Any gift brings joy. This is perhaps its main and undeniable feature. The choice of gifts should be conscious. Each of them reveals the character of the presenter.
Both the packaging itself and its contents betray the ingenuity, imagination, as well as the taste and courtesy of the giver. The real value of the gift does not mean so much, the main thing is that it be dear and valuable to the donee.
Even the most insignificant, but presented with a special meaning, has enough chances to become the most important of all for life and will be remembered for a long time.
Each gift is symbolic in its meaning. Basically, it is aimed at lightly emphasizing some advantages or correcting minor shortcomings. But, first of all, the gift must correspond to the tastes and preferences of the person to whom it is chosen. When choosing a gift, be sure to take into account the environment in which the gift will be presented.
If any celebration is planned, for example, a birthday, name day, wedding or anniversary, the contents of the package must be taken care of in advance. Standing at the counter of a store or constructing a gift at home with your own hands, you need to weigh all the "pros" and "cons".
The donation process should not be casual, such as "here, this is for you." Yes, if you are shy, give as beautifully and politely as possible. There is one golden rule when it comes to gift giving. When presenting a present, in no case should you say how difficult it was to find something as a gift and how expensive the purchase of this thing was. There is no need to tell those present, and even more so the hero of the occasion, about all the adventures. In response, after such a story, words of gratitude and appreciation for the concern and nothing more will follow, then such a person will be seated at the table and his presence will be forgotten. And such a narrative will be regarded as a manifestation of bad manners and sick pride.
It would be nice to know the taste of friends in order to give what they like. It turns out that you need to be able to choose a gift, taking into account a lot: the reason for the gift (holiday or just a surprise), the age and gender of the person, your relationship with him, the interests and hobbies of your friend. Therefore, if, when choosing a gift, you are looking for something worse among your things that you don’t need, this is not a gift! If you are sorry to part with something, or you give something dear to you under the compulsion of your mother, this is also not a gift. Bought in a hurry "something" - also not a gift!
It's easier for those who have "golden hands". A gift made especially for the recipient will always be to your liking - whether it be a poem, drawing, embroidery or a soft toy. If any of you are embarrassed to show off your talents, then you will have to borrow money from your parents and think carefully about the gift. Is your friend a collector? Always a pleasure to add to your collection! Do you know your friend's interests? Then it will be easy for her to choose the videotape, book or notebook she needs. Boys usually like sporting goods, key chains. Almost anything can be a gift item.
A few mandatory rules that the donor should know:
- for a birthday, gifts should be given that only the birthday person himself, and not his whole family, will use;
- it is not good to give gifts after a birthday, it is better the day before;
- it is indecent to give money to a friend and advise at the same time "to buy yourself whatever you want"; if you really care about the recipient, then you should work hard and come up with the right gift for him, which will bring joy, and money may look like a handout and may offend;
- you should not give very expensive, "chic" gifts, by doing this you can put a person in an awkward position, unwittingly humiliate him or make him feel dependent on you;
- if you were invited to a house where there is absolutely everything, and your friend cannot be surprised by anything, then do not fall into despair and do not puzzle over how to get money for an expensive gift worthy of a rich house; you can give a thing, although not valuable, but distinguished by its rarity and elegance, or witty beat your gift - for example, give a classmate a Mercedes model and write on a postcard: "Let this car grow with you!" More fantasy, my friends!
- gift packaging is important: home-made bags, boxes and postcards are valued higher, so it is worth collecting foil, clippings, ribbons;
- never give back what was given to you, because someone wanted to please you, it didn’t work out;
- in relation to edible gifts, there is an insidious rule - they should be served immediately on the table, this must be taken into account;
- live gifts (kittens, fish ...) can only be given with the prior consent of all family members of the recipient;
- a gift is not given in the corridor (with the exception of flowers), it is handed in the room, slowly, saying warm words.
- no need to get off with some trifle - you can be known as a miser;
- you can’t give things that are, so to speak, ambiguous, for example, deer antlers to a spouse-anniversary, a picture with a sad plot to a newlywed;
- well, if the gift is a surprise. But this surprise of the one to whom it is intended;
- a bad gift is worse than no gift.
So, what to give, when to give and to whom to give?
Let's start with the last - to whom. Of course, you don’t have to give gifts to everyone in a row, you can make a lot of mistakes. No need to give gifts to unfamiliar people - you will only surprise them with your act.
One of the most difficult questions: should you give gifts to your bosses? Any gift you bring, for example, for your boss's birthday, can be interpreted by gossip lovers as a fawning, as a desire to stand out. And the one to whom the gift is intended can also be put in a very ambiguous position: if you (let's say), an excellent employee, were soon to be promoted to a more responsible job, then after you brought the gift to your leader, he'll just be embarrassed to support your candidacy for the nomination. Therefore, it is customary in exceptional cases (anniversary, retirement, etc.), of course, if the boss has really good, friendly relations with his employees, to make collective gifts: from the department, from the management, from the sector, etc. .
Now - when to give. It is customary to make gifts for family dates - birthdays, weddings, graduation from school, university, etc. These are easy cases, because it is clear to whom to give and when to give. A little more difficult is the issue with weddings. The first anniversary is considered a "paper" wedding, the second - "glass", the tenth - "porcelain", the fifteenth - "bronze", the twentieth - "crystal", etc.
In one of the editions of Chevalier's book "Rules of Conduct for Well-Brought-up People" (1918), the first twenty wedding anniversaries each have their own name, and gifts are recommended to be made exactly in accordance with the name of the anniversary. That is, on the "glass" anniversary, give glassware, on the "porcelain" - porcelain, on the "crystal" - crystal, and so on. There are also platinum and diamond weddings. But the theoreticians of the rules of good manners have not yet reached a consensus: some of them consider the sixty-year anniversary to be diamond, others - the sixty-year anniversary to be platinum, and the seventy-five-year anniversary to be diamond.
Nowadays, a silver wedding is especially common - twenty-five years of marriage, a golden wedding - fifty years. However, one should not fall under the hypnosis of beautiful symbols: it is not necessary to give only silver items to a silver wedding, and gold to a gold one.
So we come to one of the main questions what to give?
The gift is chosen depending on who needs to give it - to a friend, relative, acquaintance. It is easier to give gifts to a loved one than to a stranger or someone who has not been seen for a long time. In such a situation, it is easy to say what this or that person would like, what he most needs. Here you can easily afford to give just a bouquet of flowers, a small soft toy or something from household utensils.
There is one remark concerning utensils. A birthday surprise like this would be a little out of place. After many hours of preparing a festive table, hardly anyone wants to return to this topic again. Such a gift would be appropriate only for a housewarming party.
You can give to close relatives as something of clothing, and various household items. In these cases, a very wide choice is allowed - that is, everything is suitable that does not violate the above general rules about gifts. A husband can even choose a gift for his wife along with her, a mother with her daughter.
The further the relationship, the less close you are with the person, the more difficult it is to choose a gift. If you can bring pantyhose, gloves, a hat or a frivolous handbag to a relative, then you cannot give this to a girl with whom you just know.
A woman can give a close relative a man various smoking accessories, tobacco, wine, a tie, a scarf, a sweater, a shirt. But it is impossible to give toilet items to distant relatives.
All other gifts are divided into two categories: souvenir (books, wallet, wallet, a set of pens, key chain and other small items) and valuable ones - a vase, service, tablecloth with napkins, art and handicrafts, coffee device.
For a gift, if it is being prepared for the New Year, by the eighth of March, it is recommended to attach either an appropriate postcard, or a small figure of Santa Claus, a mimosa branch, etc.
Recently, it has become common to give books as gifts. You need to choose a book very carefully, knowing at least approximately what kind of books can please the one you want to give a gift to. And one more indispensable rule: never inscribe books! Only the author has the right to sign a book. Any other inscription spoils it. You can enclose a colorful postcard with words of congratulations or a business card with a few congratulatory phrases in the book.
At the birth of a child, a young mother expects a bouquet of flowers and a letter from her new father. Relatives and acquaintances in these cases give a stroller, diapers and undershirts, dishes.
Jewelry should be bought with a large selection: firstly, they can be given to relatives and especially close friends; secondly, it is necessary to take into account the main thing: whether they will suit their future owner (of course, we are talking about brooches, pendants, rings, watches, bracelets, and not about desktop jewelry, dishes, silverware, bowls, etc. d.).
One important detail. There is a fairly common custom to tear off a label with a price on a gift: they say, not in the price de-lo. It seems that in this custom there is a fair amount of hypocrisy, characteristic of the etiquette of past times. Let's judge sensibly: after all, the hero of the occasion does not live on a desert island and still roughly imagines the cost of this or that thing. And if you wish, you can easily find out the exact price. So no need to play hide and seek - it's really not about the price!
Fergusson's "Textbook for Gentlemen" in the chapter on gifts gives one good advice: a person who wants to be polite must have a notebook in which all birthdays and other significant dates are noted not only of close relatives, but also of friends and acquaintances . Thus, none of the holidays and anniversaries will take this person by surprise.
Each gift is a mirror of the nature of the giver., even if they try not to show their character when buying. And presenting a gift is not a duty to the hero of the occasion, but first of all a sign of attention and respect for him. Having no free time or completely forgetting about the gift, in no case should you entrust the purchase of a gift to another person. Even a beautifully packaged such a gift, after the giver leaves, will lose all its attractiveness, being in the far corner.
It often happens that one of those invited for some reason cannot attend the celebration: feeling unwell, a business trip, etc. In this case, close friends are asked to convey apologies, congratulations and a gift. Together with the gift, the hero of the occasion should send a greeting card. In the event that a loved one cannot attend the celebration and passes the gift through a third party, they must thank him by sending him a postcard or letter, and the person who passes the gift. All the words expressed about the present itself are addressed to the same person.
And the last tip: never put off buying a gift until the last day. You should not bring a birthday bouquet that is plucked from a flower bed near the house, or give complete nonsense from the nearest store. You need to think about the gift in advance. Then its originality and relevance will be guaranteed.
Good afternoon!
I'm confused and would like a side view.
I've been dating a guy for almost a year now. I'm 26, he's 29.
After 3 weeks of relationship, when I was just taking a closer look, he “pressed” me and asked where our relationship was heading, that he was serious, etc. I was a little taken aback, as it seemed to me that it was too early for such conversations. After a short period of time, he confessed his love to me, and I responded too. Although I don't think I was sure.
From the very beginning, I was embarrassed by our communication, I could not talk to him normally on topics that I usually talk about with friends and acquaintances. He was not particularly interested in my childhood, and in general there were no all these questions by which people recognize each other. He interrupted me very often, and when he finished speaking, he didn’t ask, “what were you talking about?”, after a couple of my tantrums (at first, multiple comments) on this topic, I saw that he began to try to listen to the end, but in general it was still not enough some participation. (now it seems to be better with this, but communication in general still does not satisfy me). He very often said / says how much he misses me, how much he loves me. When something works out for me, for example, at work, he rejoices, says a lot of good words, supports me.
But .. for example, we have zero romance.
And so it was from the very beginning. For example, he talked about flowers, what should be given, asked if I wanted to. I answered that yes, I love flowers and I would be pleased. He said - for my birthday I will give! Well, okay.. For my birthday, he gave me.. nothing. We went to a neighboring city that day (the idea was mine, I thought over the trip, I was also going to pay, well, or in half). He paid for the hotel and a couple of dinners at the restaurant. In the morning he told me - only I don’t have anything for you .. Now I’m writing and it’s so disgusting, and even then there was little pleasure, but I swallowed it. A few days later I was throwing a party and he came even without flowers. Then there were some quarrels, when I spoke out about this, said that okay, flowers are not the most important thing and I can buy them myself, but why do I need to promise, ask and not do? This happened not only with flowers, but also with some little things. After quarrels a couple of days later he came as a surprise and brought me flowers. Made a surprise on February 14, it was just after a quarrel.
It is so natural for me to give gifts to a loved one, to know what he loves, to see it in the store, to buy or do something myself to please. Apparently not for him, well, or all the words about love - do not mean anything. In one of the quarrels, when we had already met for about 6-7 months, I asked - what are my favorite flowers? He didn't know, of course.
At the very beginning, we quarreled very often and he was also dissatisfied with the relationship and was about to leave (forever or just at the moment to think - I did not always understand). I did not hold, even felt relieved. He never left, went out the door once and came back 5 minutes later. What for? I sat whining that he loves me and does not want to lose me. A couple of times I literally pushed out the door, because he said to my claims that I was right and he saw that I was unhappy. Then he called me every other day or came and said again that he did not want to lose me and was ready to change. But not much has changed.
When in my head I clearly decide to leave, I begin to regret a little, it becomes scary. I'm starting to think about the pros, they are. I really like him outwardly, I can’t say that he doesn’t give a damn about me, supports almost any of my ideas to go / go somewhere (there are few of his ideas and it infuriates me), often changes his plans to make it convenient for me, calls in follows me, gives me a ride wherever I need, helps somewhere with documents and translations (I live in another country), listens to my opinion, introduced me to my parents, was very proud when I told my friends about my simple achievements, well, and in general, I see that he is not indifferent to him.
I'm a little confused, maybe I want a lot, I don't appreciate what I have?
For example, this year I have not received a single significant gift. They don’t celebrate the New Year here, but I said that I love this holiday and we give gifts. I bought him a good, not cheap gift that I know what he wanted. He is nothing to me. It can be seen that he was ashamed, but .. so he didn’t want to strain?
Once he burned my raincoat with a cigarette (not much, but still). Several months promised to buy and did not buy. Once I wrote that I found a cool dress (I wrote without a hint), he says - buy it, I will pay! When I found out the price, which, by the way, was not some kind of cosmic one, he said - let's cut it in half? In a different situation, I might have taken it normally, but against the background of all other promises, I said no, thank you. And there were more than one or two such promises, such as “I will buy, I will give.” And in fact - nothing. I don't want to sound like a mercenary, but I don't think it's great. Is this what a man in love does, who cares what the girl thinks?
He tells me that he has no complaints about me, that I am beautiful in everything, except sometimes cold and rarely say that I love him. Hmm .. And I once told him that it would be better if he spoke less. Of course, I know that I am far from perfect and do not build illusions here, I try to treat with attention.
For the last three months, he has been helping me pay for housing (1/3), but he spends the night with me for almost half a month. And here, rather, my “merit”, I whined about problems at work and lack of money, I really regret it already. He has been living with his parents for about 2 years after breaking up with his girlfriend. Persistently offers to move in. And I don't seem to want to. For many reasons, first of all I am afraid that I will be stupidly bored. And I will not pull financially. I told him about this, he offered to pay a little more, but it won’t do me much good. He talks about the wedding, he is not afraid of the idea of having children (yes, I'm not ready, I don't feel stable and just have other plans for now).
Here is such a mess of solid negativity. The last time I talked about the breakup, he began to list some pluses and what he did for me, and it really began to seem to me that all my dissatisfaction and accusations were groundless. And now, on reflection, I understand that I have some kind of one big stupid resentment - I don’t give gifts (and even worse, promises and doesn’t do it), but I think there is still a chain of dissatisfaction, to which I react sharply, but for some reason I can't put a point.
Forgive me for a lot of text, I will be glad to hear opinions and answer questions, if necessary.
Thank you!
Lyudmila does not need expensive gifts at all, she, like any woman, wants attention:
“Do not take it for commercialism, but really got it. We have been together for almost a year, during all this time I have not even received a flower. I don’t ask for fur coats, cars, gold, stones ... But it’s completely disgusting here, even on the DR I was left without flowers. In a fit of rage, she asked why, received the answer - "I did not have time to buy." Elki, it's been 4 months... and you haven't had time? How did it happen?
We don't go anywhere together. Only promises: let's go, yes, yes, that's the trail. week necessarily descend and silence. What's this? Doesn't care about me or do men stop caring with age? Throw slippers for the stream of consciousness.
Ludmila
It turns out that most women would not like this attitude. Ladies believe that small presents and pleasant little things speak of a good upbringing and respect for a woman:
"Give it up - he's a miser!"
Irene
“You have a lot of patience, that’s enough for me for 4 months, and that’s it, I never had more time to communicate with him, he tried to find out - I told everything by garlic that for all the time not a single gift, not a single flower - it’s you, sweet man, insolent, only to come to a woman without everything, somehow it’s not comme il faut, you need to bring something else in your hands. And yes, it’s just greed and it can’t be fixed, but it’s your choice to put up with it or not.”
Anonymous
“Are you with him for a whole YEAR? Well, you give ... It's not about gifts, but about elementary education and the level of a person. Usually these things come up very quickly, what you admire for this year is not clear.
March *
“When he tells you the next time, “zai, I’m very ashamed, I’ll fix it,” you immediately grab him and go to the store. Dear, I really liked one thing here - go for it!
Anonymous
“As an option (I don’t insist, of course) - he doesn’t love you. But he still likes to sleep with you.
Humpty Dumpty V.I.P.
“So he is pathologically greedy. There can be no other diagnoses here.”
Anonymous
Those who believe that true happiness is not measured by flowers and gifts also expressed their opinion:
“Indeed, people are ready to miss happiness because of some stupid flowers. That's what you because of them? Why do you need them? And if you are SO needed - by yourself, what can’t you buy?
Inga_groza ***
“Yes, he doesn’t give gifts and probably never will. Love him the way he is. Or break up. Don't try to remake it. Nobody has been able to do this yet. Just make yourself upset and waste your time.”
Anonymous
Having told her story on the forum and received various advice, Lyudmila understood how her chosen one really relates to her. Now she will face a new task: to decide what to do with such a greedy lover.